Dealing With The Realities of "Reality Porn"
There is always going to be a high turn-over rate when it comes to the people performing in porn. I've lost count of how many times I've become infatuated with a beautiful new model on some website or DVD, only to see him disappear after one or two scenes, never to be seen or heard from again.
Now that I'm a producer myself, I'm learning the hard way why that is the case.
Sometimes it's simply due to some change in a model's circumstances or interests. For example, models might move to another city, go off to college, or get involved in monogamous romantic relationships with partners who don't like the idea of their boyfriends sleeping with other men for a living.
For some guys, doing porn is just a spontaneous, short-term thrill like bungee-jumping or sky-diving, something they do once just to say they've done it, but will most likely never do again. For others, it's an impulsive decision, a quick way to pay off a debt or escape a difficult financial situation - a desperate and temporary last resort.
But I suspect that most of the guys who disappear from the porn scene after only one or two scenes do so because of the exposure, harassment, and discrimination that frequently faces those working in the adult entertainment industry. The fact of the matter is that while porn is much more accessible and mainstream than it was just ten or twenty years ago, we still live in a religious, sexually repressive country where there's still a social stigma surrounding porn and the people who make it. The really fucked-up part is that those who make pornography a multi-billion dollar industry by joining its websites and buying its DVD's are the very same people judging, exposing, and shaming their friends and relatives who actually make such adult entertainment possible!
Add to that the fact that there's still such widespread ignorance, disapproval, and even hostility toward men who have sex with men, prejudice that runs especially rampant within the black community - and it's not hard to imagine the kind of treatment that many black males performing in gay porn are subjected to by their families and friends, or understand why that might be too much for some guys to bear. Especially since many of the guys I work with are either straight or bisexual and "on the DL" - guys whose sexual identities are already so confused and conflicted and contradictory to begin with, which of course only increases the risk of them experiencing regrets or complications in their personal lives as a consequence of doing gay porn.
Now I could do what a lot of gay producers do and work exclusively with out-and-proud gay males. I'm guessing that's why there are so many laughably fake scenes on the so-called "straight bait" sites starring girly gay boys trying to pass themselves off as straight virgin frat-boys or jocks and other nonsense like that. Those producers profit from the fantasy of seducing a straight guy while sparing themselves the stress and drama that come with pursuing actual real-life straight boys.
But I choose to work with straight, bi-curious, and bisexual guys "on the DL" because in my opinion they are the most intriguing and exciting to watch and film (although I do work from time to time with some very cute gay boys as well). I assume that if you're a fan of my movies, you probably feel the same way.
But by seeking out this unique brand of "reality porn" (me making it and you watching it), we also have to accept that reality oftentimes fails to conform to our fantasies. Most of these guys will never become popular gay "porn stars" starring in dozens or even hundreds of scenes. Most of them will never go "all the way" (i.e., anal penetration) - at least not for the money I'm able to offer them. And sadly, a lot of them will only appear in one or two scenes before changing their minds or getting scared away from gay porn for good.
Now that I'm a producer myself, I'm learning the hard way why that is the case.
Sometimes it's simply due to some change in a model's circumstances or interests. For example, models might move to another city, go off to college, or get involved in monogamous romantic relationships with partners who don't like the idea of their boyfriends sleeping with other men for a living.
For some guys, doing porn is just a spontaneous, short-term thrill like bungee-jumping or sky-diving, something they do once just to say they've done it, but will most likely never do again. For others, it's an impulsive decision, a quick way to pay off a debt or escape a difficult financial situation - a desperate and temporary last resort.
But I suspect that most of the guys who disappear from the porn scene after only one or two scenes do so because of the exposure, harassment, and discrimination that frequently faces those working in the adult entertainment industry. The fact of the matter is that while porn is much more accessible and mainstream than it was just ten or twenty years ago, we still live in a religious, sexually repressive country where there's still a social stigma surrounding porn and the people who make it. The really fucked-up part is that those who make pornography a multi-billion dollar industry by joining its websites and buying its DVD's are the very same people judging, exposing, and shaming their friends and relatives who actually make such adult entertainment possible!
Add to that the fact that there's still such widespread ignorance, disapproval, and even hostility toward men who have sex with men, prejudice that runs especially rampant within the black community - and it's not hard to imagine the kind of treatment that many black males performing in gay porn are subjected to by their families and friends, or understand why that might be too much for some guys to bear. Especially since many of the guys I work with are either straight or bisexual and "on the DL" - guys whose sexual identities are already so confused and conflicted and contradictory to begin with, which of course only increases the risk of them experiencing regrets or complications in their personal lives as a consequence of doing gay porn.
Now I could do what a lot of gay producers do and work exclusively with out-and-proud gay males. I'm guessing that's why there are so many laughably fake scenes on the so-called "straight bait" sites starring girly gay boys trying to pass themselves off as straight virgin frat-boys or jocks and other nonsense like that. Those producers profit from the fantasy of seducing a straight guy while sparing themselves the stress and drama that come with pursuing actual real-life straight boys.
But I choose to work with straight, bi-curious, and bisexual guys "on the DL" because in my opinion they are the most intriguing and exciting to watch and film (although I do work from time to time with some very cute gay boys as well). I assume that if you're a fan of my movies, you probably feel the same way.
But by seeking out this unique brand of "reality porn" (me making it and you watching it), we also have to accept that reality oftentimes fails to conform to our fantasies. Most of these guys will never become popular gay "porn stars" starring in dozens or even hundreds of scenes. Most of them will never go "all the way" (i.e., anal penetration) - at least not for the money I'm able to offer them. And sadly, a lot of them will only appear in one or two scenes before changing their minds or getting scared away from gay porn for good.
Posted by Michael Galletta at Wednesday, January 27, 2010 1:00 PM 
Categories: Behind the Scenes,More About The Boys
Categories: Behind the Scenes,More About The Boys
Keep your chin up man. I can remember being that age (18 - 25) . . . your mind changes about as much as the direction of the wind.
I also think that the fact that they are now trying to distance themselves from the reality of what they've done only adds to the credibility of your site. You've done fantastic work with these brothas, and that's a real accomplishment. Mourn the loss for a few, but keep looking forward.
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Thanks for your words of encouragement, KayJay! I remember having some pretty wild mood swings when I was that age as well, so I know I can't get too upset or take it personally. It's just an unfortunate part of this job that can be discouraging and difficult to deal with at times.
"Mourn the loss for a few, but keep looking forward" - that is wise advice! It's sometimes easier said than done, but I know that is the best attitude to have when things like this come up.
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ok mike whats the good news? you got beno to bottom? lol!! you said you had bad news and good news
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never mind. i think that you'd gone as far as you could with these 3 guys and already got the best out of them. i wasn't expecting anything else from lil steve or d-rel anyway - they seemed very reluctant! and suspense had pretty much done everything there was to do. who knows what goes on in some people's heads - i sure am glad that religion has all but died out in the uk!
look on the bright side - it keeps things fresh! new meat!!
and i'd take beno and tori over them anyway
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I can see why you would've been feeling so hurt, Mike, but the fact that Suspense acted like that towards you says bucket loads about his own internal conflicts. I hope you're feeling better now. It's a shame about D-Rel because he was a little hottie but I think you were spot on in what you said about him.
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That sucks, but maybe it was for the best. But at least there's still Beno, Tori and sexy-ass Kenny.
Keep up the good work, Mike.
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My God. If I had known you were going through this I would have moved heaven and hell to get your number and call you myself. Once again, you and I seemed locked in some bizarre cosmic energy where we experience similar things at almost the exact same moment. My experiences haven't been like yours but they have been mentally and spiritually challenging; to say the least.
I do hope you don't let this discourage you. I know that for me, producing porn (and now filming for someone else) has become my life. It's something I thoroughly enjoying doing. And you know what? Despite the problems, the aggravations,the realities that we have come to know and accept, it's not enough to deter us from stripping down all those hot males and filming their beauty for others to enjoy!
Chin up, buddy. I send you a huge hug.
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Well Well Well... what else can be said but A Job Well Done by MIke..... Its not everyday that you get to turn out a hot sexy appealing Model... and you have done that with such class and tact that you should be proud of yourself and the work that you have provided to your loyal viewers like myself..Being a producer its a very thin line with business and pleasure and sometimes you have the pleasure of experiencing both..(D-REL)...lol..(SUSPENSE)...LMAO.. life is about growing up and having different experiences that will either make you a stronger man or make you fall flat on your face...for the three models that you have lost...a moment of silence,...now that we have paid them their due respect to the beauty of the artform that they so willing contributed to its time to move on and allow the less confused men out there to come experience what BBA has to offer. They will be truly missed but I heard a saying a long time ago that really proves true right about now.... One mans trash is another mans treasure...opportunity is knocking at the door for bba and I am sure some sexy ass guys will CUM knocking real soon.... Mike dont you ever second guess yourself for someone elses actions... remember before anything else you are a professional business man and these models willingly performed all their acts..Keep your head up high and remember 2009 was a great and successful year so 2010 is time to take it to new and more adventurous conquest...forever a loyal fan of BBA...... XAVIER
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This is just horrible, omg! What a way to bring in the New Year, time for Beno and DJ to take the stage and show us what BBA is all about!! lol
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Mike don't let this faze you one bit! This happens to the largest and the smallest of sites. Factors of life and tradition some times get in the way but you will weather this for it most likely will not be the last time it happens to this site. I certainly support you and the site, when dealing with guys like this its hard on the amature level because they have to face the challange of people finding out and this site is becoming a fast growing in notariaty. Just get ready to grow and keep on moving into 2010 with your head up and a smile on your face! The true fans and somewhat friends got your back!
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First I wanna say I admire you for sharing the shit like this, most producers don't let you know ANYTHING other than who they fucked or fuckin but you always give the heads up. Preciate that
Second, WOW!! kinda hit me hard with this one. But truth is they knew what was up and that it was gonna be a risk that they would be exposed. Desperation can make you do some weird things trust me I know. But you always got a choice and if you knew that you was gone get exposed you should thought it thru plain and simple. And I mean you doing something that's gone be exposed to the public and what do you expect to happen? That nobody will find out? They kinda hot (IMHO -_-) but to me nothing loss nothing gained by them leaving. Movin right along!! (seriously they ain't worth the depression to me)
Brian Ima be honest with you dude, they some trifflin bitches. They didn't even have to do the "bitch" move on you like some punk. All they had to do is say they wasn't wit it no more and I'm sure you would have understood. But they just had to act like some bitches and act all like girls that don't wanna see they man no more
Well im done ventin' so keep ya head up and keep makin these hits!!!
Peace
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oops my bad I meant Mike
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I was too busy last week to respond to your individual comments, but I wanted to take a moment to express my gratitude for all of the encouragement, advice, and support in response to this blog entry. I honestly wasn't sure how people would respond to this news, so it's a relief to receive these words of understanding and support and know that for most of you, your enjoyment of my movies is bigger than any one or two models! Thanks!
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