I started to write this as a reply to some of the comments on my recent post about Isaiah’s stubborn refusal to try anal penetration, but decided to turn it into a blog post instead.
If I’d been as impatient and demanding of my straight models as some of you seem to think I should be with Isaiah, many of BBA’s most unforgettable “conquests” never would have happened! Let’s not forget that it took OVER TWO YEARS of patient pursuit before D-Rel agreed to get fucked, and well over a year for guys like Mystery Model, Rico, and Noah to surrender their asses.
I just can’t seem to win with some viewers when it comes to BBA’s straight models. When the guy is stiff, reluctant, nervous, or looking like a deer caught in the headlights, he’s criticized for being TOO STRAIGHT. People complain about him needing the help of straight porn to perform with a guy, or that he doesn’t show enough passion and chemistry with his scene partners, etc.
But when I finally succeed in bringing these guys out of their shells and actually persuade them to try the very same things that were once unthinkable for them and for us – usually after a long pursuit and large financial incentive – all of a sudden they’re NOT STRAIGHT ENOUGH! Sometimes the very same people criticizing them for being “too straight” in the beginning start saying they’re not convincingly straight, or they had to have been gay all along, the whole “gay for pay” idea is a lie, etc., etc.
We’ve been through this before with Stephon. If you go back and look at the feedback to his earliest scenes, a lot of people criticized him for being too stiff, reluctant, boring, passionless, even complaining about the fact that he needed the help of straight porn in order to perform with a guy. He even made a similar declaration to Isaiah’s, saying he wouldn’t get fucked even if I paid him TEN GRAND.
Skip ahead a year later and he’s finally doing things that he initially swore he would NEVER do – and ONLY after long and stressful negotiations over the course of many months – and now people say he was gay the whole time, no real straight guy would do that for money, etc., etc. Apparently forgetting their former complaints that Stephon was TOO straight just a few months before, LOL!
I think what this comes down to is that some viewers like the FANTASY of watching straight guys have gay sex, but not the REALITY of what that might sometimes look like. In other words, they want the straight guy to be “straight” but perform as if he were gay. If the fantasy of gay boys pretending to be straight is what you want to see, there are plenty of fake “straight bait” sites out there for you to enjoy!
Black Boy Addictionz, on the other hand, has always been about REALITY PORN. For myself and many other viewers, the fact that guy-on-guy sex is unnatural and uncomfortable for a straight basketball star like Isaiah is part of what makes his scenes so taboo and hot! That’s not to say I don’t try my best to train and coach these straight guys over time, and I think I’ve had a fair amount of success at gradually bringing them out of their shells and getting them to try some pretty shocking new things. But with a few rare exceptions (Saint, Freaky J, etc.), it isn’t something that happens overnight!
While Isaiah’s refusal to get fucked is obviously disappointing, it’s hardly a reason to give up on him or lose sight of just how far he’s come in a VERY short period of time! When Isaiah’s solo “audition” first came out, I remember some of you complaining right from the start that you’d probably never see him again! Considering the fact that this is the same guy who initially refused to do ANYTHING with a guy, then only very reluctantly agreed to try it if he could wear a blindfold, I think it’s pretty amazing to think of everything he’s done since.
Contrary to what some of you have been claiming, Isaiah has continued to make progress and expand his boundaries in each and every scene that he’s done. He’s already done MUCH more than a lot of BBA’s straight models EVER end up doing, including getting his ass licked, sucking dick, and even letting me cum all over his face!
I’m not going to promise a dramatic overnight transformation or anything like that, but I do think you’ll notice continued improvement in his next scene with Lil Tyga, which will be posted tomorrow. That “deer in the headlights” look still pops up from time to time, but hopefully you’ll see that we’re at least making some headway in helping him to be more expressive and show a little more passion and communication with his scene partners.
Michael I agree with you totally! DO NOT GIVE UP ON ISAIAH! He is too hot and I enjoy everything he is in. Plus, I already sent the check, you can show it to him but don’t cash it until after he has done the BIG scene in case I am short some funds on it clearing my bank! Lighten up guys!!!! Isaiah is a looker and a BIG find! Thanks Michael for this cutie and now for the next update! STOP BLOGGING AND GET TO THE UPDATE! @#&*$@!!!!! LOL
Well Said Mike!! That’s Why I Like Your Site Because These Are “REAL STRAIGHT BOYS” Inspite Of All My Hangups With A lot Of Stuff I’m Here To Stay…
I’ve been waiting on this type of collab… Sooooo looking forward to Lil Tyga & Isaiah. Too true hot boys!! Lil Tyga is a sexy freak & Isaiah is probably your greatest find. Hang on to him & keep trying. Let’s hope his tuition increases & he has no choice. Lol … Yes I do believe some of the “straight” dudes are lying but in the end who cares. The fantasy is still hot and I continue to like the site. Good job!
Hi Michael,
I think what you said is right on the money (pardon the pun lol). Many gay guys want it both ways. We all fantasize about the hot straight guy we know and imagine him doing all the things we do. Of course, he would be unwilling at first, then he realizes he loves it and goes crazy. But that’s not reality and more than likely would not happen. I think the guys being “gay for pay” is very much like our coming out. At first, it’s scary and your nervous, but in time you get more and more comfortable with it and you learn to relax. What ever these guys call themselves should not matter. It’s up to them and they need to live their lives as they see fit. Also, let’s all give them a lot of credit for doing something that at one time they never thought they would do. It takes a lot of courage to throw yourself out there to be judged by everyone watching you do something you never thought you would do. How many of us could do that? Give them time and I’m sure they will get better. Whatever Stephon, Isaiah, Freaky J, Saint or whoever label themselves is their thing. I’m just happy they are with BBA and I can enjoy what they do.
I think that less is always more in the kind of ‘reality porn’ you’re exploring here.
For me, Isaiah oozing precum like a leaky faucet when he’s servicing Saint will always be hotter than the poor guy crunching up his face after you’ve splooged on him.
So I’m super glad that the “olden ways” of taking baby steps with new models is in full mode with Isaiah, rather than the rapid quickfire jack-off/serviced/topping/bottoming you sometimes have on.
And I must say I’m super intrigued by the pair-up with Lil Tyga who like Jamitis28 says really comes off as aggressive. Matching him with a more laid-back pitcher makes for an interesting next-step in Isaiah’s BBA education.
Mike I was one of those people who said let Isaiah slang it around a little while before he bottoms. However, when you blogged about his response to your inquiry I gotta admit I felt kinda let down lol. You know cause even though I want him to spread it around I still would like to see him bottom. What you blogged about here was spot on though. I enjoy your work which is why when I see something I like I purchase. I quite like seeing the men put in uncomfortable situations it’s sexy to me. I’m not exactly looking for a scene that’s filled with passion. Plain and simple I like seeing the boys get turned out and generally don’t call the models sexuality into question minus a couple times. Which is why I am always blowin the site up looking to see when something I wanna see hit’s the screen. Lucky for me that will be later on today and I got my coins ready hopefully August brings hot things to BBA. Actually I might need September and October to be hot too lol. Don’t let the nonsensical complaints get to you your work speaks for itself.
Michael just keep doing what you’re doing as it’s all good. Oh and please fuck Cory sometime soon.
I love your site because it is so organic. The models are so real, or at least play it really well at best. I love the build up of seeing a model just jack off and then gradually do more and then the crescendo when they give in and give up the ass. Keep it up. Your site is the only one I pay to watch. lol
I’m not here to complain but I think this is a great customer service forum to see what MOST like and don’t. BBA can’t or ever will please everyone. Not gonna happen. I don’t think you should give up on Isaiah but having two similar posts with the same model so close together may not be the best move. Give him time and re-visit in a month or so. If shooting schedules is a issue, just keep the footage in the can for a later post. Everyone on here has their own favorites so mix the soup up a little more on your posts. When Isaiah comes around your gonna be a porn genius lol.
I just went back to Isaiah’s older posts and realized he never fucked Saint in their “job orientation”. That would have made that rather short post worthy of a part II. Again I realize things go on behind the scenes and guys agree and then un-agree so I’m guessing that may have been the issue there.
finally mike im glad you put that to rest……sometimes people do have to understand there are a lot of true straight guys out here who for the right price will try gay for pay…personally i like a story hence why im into reading the erotic black men stories u can find on the net…….fantasy is always good and why not enjoy with sexy azz dudes like lil tyga and isaiah…….keep up the great work and trust me if there was an issue with how u did things your true models who been with u from day one aka dragon and beno would been the first to call you out on anything…..so til then keep doing what u do……..
SO U MEAN TO TELL ME THAT I HAVE TO WAIT YET ANOTHER WEEK TO SEE U FUCK FREAKY J????? UGH
I was one of the guys who expressed disinterest in Isaiah. Not because he won’t bottom, but because he’s boring and his disinterest in his work, disinterest me. I get he’s straight, I get this is taboo and I get this is completely out of his comfort zone, but I would like to see him loosen up a bit. He’s still young enough to just enjoy sex. I would like to see his look kind of OK and not like you’re off screen holding a gun and pointing it at him. I know Saint, Suspense, Beno, and a few others had their hangups and were stiff as well, and I assume straight, but they have an energy about them that makes them your popular models. I went back and looked at the Trey, Rico and Drel videos again today, they are uber straight, but their video were hot and they were uncomfortable but you know they enjoyed that nut. That Drel divided vid was cool. He was getting into it, and he came while sucking your dick. That was hot as shit. But Isaiah’s dead eyes are just turnoff on a porn site lol. Shit, he was boring with that girl.
I get I am in the minority, I respect your work and your efforts. Like you mentioned in a comment before, you know you don’t/can’t produce scenes that’ll make everyone happy, but you have a variety to satisfy your members of different taste. I would like to know that you don’t take a lot of these comments personal.
Good points. We need to appreciate the sometimes slow, but steady “progress” these straight guys are making in just being willing to explore new sexual experiences. They often aren’t saying “no” as much as “not yet”. It would be interesting to get inside their heads and discover what made them come to you the first time and then come back at each point along their evolution (beyond the money angle). I’d also love to know what they think once they are back home, in their own world, and how if at all, it changes the way they think about gay people. Before they ever met you, did they ever have negative thoughts about gays? Were they classically homophobic or mildly curious? And now, have their thoughts moved beyond curiosity? Are any of them exploring these new experiences on their own without a camera around, because it feels good?
As a man who has lived his life mostly pursuing gay relationships, but who also acknowledges his own sexual curiosity as it applies to women, I’ve long been of the opinion that as long as it is between consenting adults and done safely to avoid disease or pregnancy, it’s all just sex. Relax and enjoy it.
Now, you need to reach back and get D-Rel’s cute younger brother, D-Solo and bring him along slowly.
Ahhhh, yes, the one that got away! Trust me, I’ve tried.
There seems to be no end to the discussion ..are “gay for pay” really straight or actually gay,
The idea being that no straight man could have gay sex although usually the same rules don’t apply to gay men..are they “Straight for Pay”.The reality is that we are all physically bi-sexual something that occurred when human females lost estrus and the result on human males sexuality. Nature was able to maintain 90% of humans as heterosexual through psychological fixation .Those of us who are gay (homosexuals) fixated on the same sex. Regardless of the fixation the body retains it’s capacity to have sex with either one, which makes “Gay or Straight for Pay” a reality. I do believe that any number of straight men have used this to make money not being restrained by any antique notions of morality but I also believe that some gay men whose appearance gives them the option claim to be straight in order to escape the onus applied to gay men. I admire those men in gay porn who admit being gay when they are. The model “Dragon” is an example of this and I applaud him for his honesty. Although I find it dubious that he is in real life a top as he claims. His personality, physicality and persona are so dominantly that of a bottom. That is why his career has been totally as a bottom and I believe anyone who was attracted to him would see him in that light and I cannot believe that he would reject every offer even by those he finds most attractive. I suspect he says that because of the ridiculously negative beliefs against those that bottom as if they are somehow lesser people.
Hello mike I love the concept of BBA .but I was dissatisfied with new
Models..I was gone for maybe close to a year..the boys are cute but to soft to me and when you come from behind that camera..that will kill the scene..keep those long videos coming ..oh love scotty and Shaun..